tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post114217612105412768..comments2009-01-07T10:32:08.368-06:00Jezerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post-1142487856233885712006-03-15T23:44:00.000-06:002006-03-15T23:44:00.000-06:002006-03-15T23:44:00.000-06:00I love 2badladies. She's right. No one warns you about anything because we can't admit to ourselves that we maybe feeling like we're failing at it. It was only talking with other women who felt the exact same feelings I did about the first six months, that I started to feel, like, hey most women go through this. It is hard. But it really does get better after a year or so....not necessarily easier. but at least they start to talk like mini humans. And you will laugh a lot more.ninepounddictatorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10914971075878852082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post-1142347808040098652006-03-14T08:50:00.000-06:002006-03-14T08:50:00.000-06:002006-03-14T08:50:00.000-06:00FABULOUS!!! I agree with 2BL's #2. I also feel like I am about to be initiated into a top-secret sorority.Erikahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14443351153489267954noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post-1142287631533690222006-03-13T16:07:00.000-06:002006-03-13T16:07:00.000-06:002006-03-13T16:07:00.000-06:00Oh man...my husband does not need to know this. (but thanks for sharing with me!)Isabelhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16860218432054070334noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post-1142283791607562112006-03-13T15:03:00.000-06:002006-03-13T15:03:00.000-06:002006-03-13T15:03:00.000-06:00Urban Mommy--Don't worry, I'm on a roll! And despite all the negative points I've made recently, I am very excited for you! Just as it's not all pretty, it's not all ugly, either. :-)<BR/><BR/>2BL--You are exactly right-on, especially with #3. I even lied to my husband and told him I had a case of the "blues" and "cabin-fever." He would have been heartbroken if I had told him how I really felt.<BR/><BR/>Honestly you guys? I needed to write that post quickly because I felt myself forgetting parts of that period. As hard as it was, I just didn't want to forget what that time was really like.Jezerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07342441899854569351noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post-1142279561899779602006-03-13T13:52:00.000-06:002006-03-13T13:52:00.000-06:002006-03-13T13:52:00.000-06:00My thoughts?<BR/><BR/>1. One guess is that the whole 'motherhood' industry would look a lot different if everyone just 'fessed up to how freakin' hard it all is. It's less fun to shop when you're terrified (ok, I managed to keep it up. But still!) We'd be buying less stuff for the nursery and spending more time huddled in corners, trembling. Or...<BR/><BR/>2. ... not having children at all. Keeping the lid on the ginormous mind and body fuck (pardon the french that is pregnancy, childbirth, and new parenthood is society's way of making sure that we continue to propagate.<BR/><BR/>3. What I think is the primary reason, however, is something that you incidentally alluded to in the post. We're afraid to speak the truth to people who aren't/aren't yet mothers because we're afraid that they won't understand. That they'll think we're bad/PPD/unloving/incompetent/whatever. Good mothers don't have it so fucking hard, right? RIGHT? I was terrified to tell anyone how hard it was at first because I thought they would interpret it as 'doesn't love the baby enough.' I love that baby more than life itself, but I've also been pretty fucking miserable (whoa with the language today!) throughout the process of bringing her here and caring for her. That's hard to get the mind around. <BR/><BR/>Which is why other blog mommies are such a lifeline. They - you - KNOW.<BR/><BR/>And they/we can speak the truth...Her Bad Motherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04582220249796318524noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9904084.post-1142278714805041742006-03-13T13:38:00.000-06:002006-03-13T13:38:00.000-06:002006-03-13T13:38:00.000-06:00Keep the honesty coming!! I love it, crave it, need it. To paraphrase NWA: Fuck the postpartum police!tania (urban_mommy)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01167558214100594817noreply@blogger.com